Top Ten Unique Concepts of Emotional Black Holes

  1.  We all have a spark of divinity inside us, so we each have an innate basic need to love and to be loved, but because we are born into an imperfect world we all have been disappointed by those we relied on for love.  This creates an emotional vacuum that must be filled.  Much of our life effort, and most of our destructive behavior, results from our subconscious quest to fill this emotional vacuum.  Some individuals try to escape the emptiness that haunts them through drugs and alcohol while others of us go to an extreme in stuffing their life with so called “good” things.  However, the only thing that can actually fill our emotional black holes created by a lack of love is God, who is love.  Consequently, we need to turn to the spark of divinity inside us, nurture it, and respond to its promptings.
  2. Most of our unhealthy behavior results from our emotional fears.  Our lack of love while growing up creates three basic fears: 1) the fear of rejection and abandonment or in other words a fear of losing love; 2) the fear of not being valued or appreciated, and 3) a fear of not being in control.  God, who is love, is the only source to fully extinguish these fears and set us free to become or true self, love others more deeply, and enjoy life.
  3.  Whenever someone does something that annoys us, instead of focusing on how wrong the other person is, a much more productive approach is to look inside our self to figure out why it bothers us so much.  If we are honest with our self, we will usually recognize that the reason someone else’s rough edge irritates us is because we have a rough edge of our own.  Consequently, as we learn to identify why something bothers us and then let it go, life’s hard knocks will chip away our imperfections and we will find that not only are we less irritated by other people, we will be less irritating to others as well.
  4. Unlike the popular school of thought that teaches once an addict, always and addict, Emotional Black Holes asserts that Christ will completely heal a wounded soul and liberate the captive from destructive behavior and addictions, if we let Him.  God can convert us into a new whole person. 

  5.  This imperfect world is not due to some big mistake, but is integral to God’s plan to convert us to become more like Him, so we can experience ultimate joy.  In order to become a loving creature like God, we need to seek God’s love with enough intensity so that it will fuse with our soul and become part of our being.  But, before we look for something it must be lost.  Consequently, the very void in our life created by being raised in an imperfect world creates the quest to find God.  Interestingly, what we feel are stumbling blocks may actually be stepping stones to reach heaven’s gate, and individuals with crying emotional needs may actually have an advantage in achieving our eternal destiny.
  6. Emotional Black Holes’ author suggests that when you feel life is not fair and that a loving God is a myth, consider the possibility that you existed as a pre-mortal spirit child of God before you were born and agreed to come to this imperfect world as part of a plan for your eternal development to become like God.  In return, Christ promised to bear all of our pain and sorrow if we would accept Him as our savior.  Accordingly, Christ can turn negative experiences into positive uplifting ones.

  7. Christ bought our soul by bearing all of our grief in the Garden of Gethsemane and dying on the cross.  The pain He suffered was not just His own, but included the weight of all of the suffering in the world from the creation of mankind until the end of time.  The sorrow we inflict on others is covered as is the hurt we receive from someone else.  The Lord’s infinite atonement is one eternal round, bringing comfort to the victim of sin, while offering freedom from guilt to the sinner, and healing them both in the process.
  8.  The essence of God’s spirit is love, light, truth and goodness.  This essence is in all things, quickens all things, is the force that governs all things, gives life to living things, and is the light or intelligence of man.  Christ bore the weight of all of the hurt and wrong throughout the history of the world.  Christ had a choice to make.  He could escape this excruciating pain cause by our sins and His agonizing death on the cross, but instead stayed true to the essence of the Spirit of God and chose to remain unified with love and compassion while suffering incomprehensible anguish caused by all of us, the very individuals He had compassion for while suffering through this ordeal.  His continued unity with the essence of God (love, truth & goodness) while descending below all things makes all things subject to Him, partially because all things have a portion of this essence or intelligence in them.  God is all powerful because He is so good.
  9.  We accept Christ to the extent we seek and accept light and truth.  We seek truth by being honest, living in reality, diligently studying His word, and by responding to that divine inner voice that tells us what is right and wrong.  A good way to seek light is to look for the evidence of God in His handiwork.  Everything and everyone has a portion of the essence of God in it and in them.  So, as we look for the goodness in the world we will be inspired by beauty of a sunset, the majesty of mountains, the elegance of a butterfly, as well as by the decency, kindness, integrity and sacrifice of the individuals we deal with each day.  The key is to look for it.  “Seek and ye shall find” God all around you, lifting you up to become a better individual and to experience a fuller, happier life.
  10.  We are all mixed bags and fall short in some respect.  Consequently, we all are dependent on the goodwill and grace of God and others.  Without grace we have no hope, and without hope we have no joy.  None of us deserve grace.  The vilest sinner in the depth of despair has as much right to grace as the holiest saint, and they each desperately need it or they will be damned.  God offers His grace to us because He loves us, not because of our worthiness.  However, we must be willing to surrender to God and turn our whole heart over to Him in order to fully accept His gift of grace.  If we love anything more than God, we will not have room in our heart to receive all of His love so that He can convert us into a being capable of receiving all that He has.  The great test of our acceptance of God’s grace is our willingness to allow Him to empower us to extend to those that offend us the same grace He offers us and forgive them.